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ACCEPTING REALITY

Like I said in my previous post, these year has been a combination of my worst and best year . Lately things seemed to be going down the drain for me . There are things in life I definitely don’t want as a part of my lives history. I sometimes don’t want this things to be a reality. I know am definitely not the only one struggling with accepting reality especially with everything going on in 2020

Accepting reality might be a very difficult process. It does not mean we are ok with what we are accepting, it doesn’t mean with agree with it either. The best thing one can do when it rains is let it rain . Acceptance is all about the present and has nothing to do with the future. Accepting reality is not an act of failure but an act of courage for those who have the strength to face the truth and stop denying it .

Rejecting reality does not change it . Suffering is sometimes the minds refusal to accept reality. In order to accept reality we have to start with the first step which is radical acceptance. It is a skill for accepting things the way that they are. It helps you accept the reality of the situation so you can make smart choices. Radical acceptance means exactly what it sounds like .

You have to accept reality no matter what reality is. The first part of radical acceptance is understanding what you can not change and recognizing what you can change. You can change how long you choose to dwell on things, the choices you make , your attitude, your relationship with God and many others.

Sometimes we face unpleasant situations and difficult problems that make us feel helpless, confused and frustrated. Don’t try to understand everything cause somethings are not meant to be understood but accepted. You don’t have to continue suffering at the hands of things you can not control. Accept whatever situation your facing and let God take over. Remember to always stay positive.

Share your ideas and thoughts with me in the comment section am always open to new ideas .

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME 🎊🎉🎂

Gather ’round and celebrate the joy that has been given to me
A gift of love – of flesh and blood. A tiny bit of heaven.

See the wonder of it all, and marvel at the sight,
Share the happiness we know, celebrate the life God has given to me .

I Make memories of the times to come, of hours and days and years.
I Marked down each step, each task, each word – the laughter and the tears throughout the year .

For a celebration of life is such, that one must never be In too big a hurry to stop and smell… to feel… to touch… to see.

Yes, gather ’round and celebrate the life that has been given to me
A gift of love – of hope eternal. Our tiny bit of heaven.

A lITTLE WORD OF MOTIVATION

I woke up this morning feeling very empty . I had some kind of pain in me . Lately I have felt very weak and defeated in the spirit, I found myself asking God a series of questions. Why do certain things happen to us ? Why does he allow the devil to place hatred, wickedness, sickness, loss, and disappointments in our lives and the world.

I decided to turn to my bible for answers. I started reading the book of Mathew in the New Testament. It is one of my favorite chapters cause I love reading about Jesus teachings and his life journey. One thing that caught my attention was Mathew 12-13 . It tells me Jesus really does understand when we suffer similar loses. He weeps too when we cry. It’s easy for us to sometimes forget the humanity of Jesus.

We forget that he lost loved ones too. We forget he was rejected, he got frustrated at his disciples when they didn’t understand, he was betrayed too. He feels everything that we feel and he is there to walk us through our pain . All we need to do is believe and pray. Pain and problems don’t come from God but from the devil. Remember the story of job? God wants us to pray and he shall lift our burdens away from us . Mathew 6:25-33

Even when Jesus knew he was to be nailed on the cross he prayed and said “God if it is possible take this pain away from me “ He is just as human as we are .

Good morning ☀️.

A NEW BEGINNING

As my birthday approaches I keep getting more excited. I have decided to celebrate this new age with an Important event in my life. I really hope it motivates someone reading this. Two years ago around this same time I had a profound moment in which I realized I needed to completely change my life . I needed to do it fast and I needed to do it right . Most importantly I needed to stick to it . It’s been very challenging but I am so grateful for my rock bottom moment. My life feels completely different .

If I have learned anything on this personal development journey of mine, is that changing your life can happen in a moment of truth. The only thing I look back to on this day is to celebrate how far I have come on this journey. Imagine living life a whole year and you find yourself in the same exact place as you were the previous year ?

Maybe there’s someone reading this right now asking themselves “how do I change my life? “ Well I will share three things you need to consider before making this change.

Make a mindset shift. Your mindset is what sets the tone for everything in your life. What we think and believe is what acts upon us . Change your prospective about negative things and things you can not control. You may not be able to control how a person treats you but can control how you react to it . You do not need to change for the world . You need to change for you .

Embrace your authentic self . Understanding who you are and what you want . I really didn’t know who I was for a very long time . I wanted to be what everyone wanted me to be . This played a huge part in me feeling lost and empty for so long . Figure out what really matters to you in life . Minds are like flowers they only open when the time is right

Do a life audit start to figure out where you stand in the 8 areas of life. Personal Development, health, relationship, home life, free time, self-care and finances. What changes will make an impact in this areas.

I hope you make a decision today if you’re feeling lost . Share with me your thoughts in the comment section below. I am always open to new ideas for growth.

Happy birthday to everyone born today . And a very happy birth to all the Virgo’s reading this.

A BAD WEEK

Sometimes we have those weeks where you don’t even wish you could hit rewind and do it all over again but instead wish you could hit all delete.

Here’s a little rundown of how last week went for me. Monday I was up late and missed an interview for a really great job, Tuesday my car broke down in the middle of traffic and I had to spend quite a lot to get it fixed and out of there . Wednesday I lost a friendship I cared much about , Thursday I felt really sick and could barely make it out of bed , Friday I lost my credit card and had some unknown transactions, Saturday I got a speeding ticket and Sunday after service my car wouldn’t start due to my battery dying.

It seemed that everything that could go wrong went wrong . Most reaction people have when the walls begin to crumble is crumble right along with the walls. I have learned not to allow the events in my life determine the course of my life. It is your reaction to this events that determine the quality of your lives.

When negative events seem to happen simultaneously it feels suffocating and difficult to overcome. The truth is there are many ways to cope with a bad day or week . I want to share the 3 things I did to help me through my bad week .

Dwell on the good things though it seems tough. With all the bad things happening to me there were equally good this that happened. Like I got another job interview with a better pay, got a $200 gift card from my sister to make me feel better. Instead of dwelling on this good things I made the mistake of dwelling on the bad ones. We should be thankful for the good things that happen to us no matter how small they may seem . Make a list of the good and bad things and celebrate the good ones.

Everything will be fine, it’s really not the end. Life has continual ups and down . We all have had low patches before and was able to get through them and learned from them. We are more than capable of overcoming anything . Focus on the things that makes you happy , get a massage, get some food , watch a movie . Do anything that makes you happy. As much as we might not like this idea but somethings are out of our control. Remember there are people who will love to have your bad days

Challenge yourself. Ok we had a bad week , will you let next week be the same? Accept the fact that there will always be bad days or weeks. Let the steam off , talk to someone if you have to. We have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of our life.

Share with me a week or day that was bad in your life and how you dealt with it in the comment section. I am always open to new ideas.

WHEN YOU THINK YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH REMEMBER THIS.

Sometimes if not often I am really unfair to myself and relentlessly compare myself to other people , no matter how many times I hear how good enough I am. I get stuck in myself and allow my inner critic to completely tear apart my self-esteem until I hate myself too much. Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is simply believing you’re worthy of the trip. Most times the pressure coming from peers, family, work and society in general Is enough to make us completely broken Inside. “Why is this a problem you ask ?” well Self-hate can affect us mentally, our relationships, our life goals and education. Dealing with self-hate has been an ongoing battle for so long, maybe it has to do with my obsession with perfection. And for you struggling with self-hate like me here’s a few things to remember.

1) Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. The reasons we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes circumstances with everyone’s else’s public highlight reel. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgoing yourself to live your best life.

2) Remember happiness is allowing yourself to be perfectly OK with “what is“ rather than wishing and worrying about what is not, “what supposed to be” or “what it will not be”. You can’t control everything that happens to you you can only control the way you react to what happens.

3) When you choose to be miserable you will find plenty of reasons to be but if you choose happiness, life will give you so many reasons to be happy. You are in control of your mind and your thoughts, not the other way around.

4) Failures are really just lessons that need to be learned. No day is ever wasted when you live it with purpose and presence. Enjoy the journey when there are detours along the way. Life it self is full mistakes how we learn from this mistakes is the definition of who we are .

5) Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first then the lessons afterwards. This is really a blessing if we look at it in a Christian light, means you’re going stronger and more capable of every passing day.

6) You don’t need anyone’s approval. Stop listening to what the world has to say and start listening to you. There are only a few people in the world that will be 100% honest with you and you’re one of them. You’re more than good enough you just have to own it .

7) celebrate all your wins not only the big ones but the small ones too. A small step forward is still a step forward no matter how small it is. Celebrate the small wins in anyway you can. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself. Tell yourself you’re not up to a potential won’t help you reach that potential.

You’re enough just the way you are, it will be a lot easier every time you remind yourself s of that. You may think there’s a lot of wrong with you but there’s also a lot of right with you . Remember you’re not alone and endings are also new beginnings.

Share with me the points that relate to you most in the comment section and I am always open to opinions.

MOVING FORWARD.

From my previous blog titled (GET INSPIRED), you get to know a side of me people never open up about. I am not here to write more about my past, not this time. In my conclusion I emphasized on the fact that we are capable of so much more than we think. God is constantly trying to open our eyes to amazing possibilities. In life there are two questions that confront people at every place and time, questions that confront you and me. Are you satisfied with the direction the world is moving? Are you satisfied with your life?

These questions are always before you , within you and around you. You are capable of incredible things. Don’t be afraid to embrace your beautiful self. The more you accept how imperfect you are, the more others will. Do not be afraid of possibilities, they are always so many more than the ones you see easily. Moving forward is never easy, there will be joy in the journey as well as a heart-wrenching pain. Any one who says the path is easy is to be distrusted. Life is difficult and messy, there’s no point trying to mask that or pretend otherwise.

How often have you fallen into the trap of thinking that the things of this world are more important than they really are? How often have we mistaken that certain things, pleasure and experience will make us happy for longer than they did? Yes there may have been times in your life you tried with all your might to overcome destructive habits and failed. We all have insatiable heart desires. Today is a new day and every moment is a chance to turn it around. This might be the begining of a new season of grace in your life. I hope it is, I pray it is. Where ever you are today I invite you to open your self up, love yourself like I learned to do. Try new things, leave the mistakes of the past in the past. Make new mistakes, we learn from the mistakes we make. Take risk and don’t fear the consequences. Only very few things bring us happiness in life.

Check on my write up on Successful and productive routines. It’s a major step to moving forward. In my next blog I will write more on having a productive mindset. I am open to your opinions in the comment section even if you don’t agree with me. Remember to always come back for more.