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DEALING WITH A BROKEN HEART

Getting your heart broken is absolutely awful. Trust me I know. Most of us if not everyone have been there at some point. And most Times we are left wondering how to get over it. Before getting into this blog I will love you to know I have had my own share of a broken heart. This is not a researched write up but my own personal experience and how I dealt with it. I dedicated two years into loving someone and that didn’t work out for me. There is no sure ways to avoid a heartbreak ( unless you’re a robot with no emotional feelings). There are ways how ever to get through it. Even though there are times you believe you will never truly be happy again. Healing a broken heart takes time, sometimes longer than we often expected. Often times we blame ourselves. I spent weeks blaming myself, thinking I wasn’t good enough, finding problems within me that never existed. It turns out blaming yourself for a breakup makes it even harder to move on .

Most often after a break up, looking back at the relationship, it is easy for our minds to trick us into believing the relationship was much better than what it really was. In the moment it feels like you will never get over it, I am here to tell you that you absolutely will. If I did, I strongly believe you can. You learn many lessons from a broken and heart and believe me the were red flags from the very start. Because you ignored the red flags at the begging doesn’t mean they never existed. Yes the red flags were there, you saw them and you ignored them. Until you realize the relationship wasn’t gold from the very start, moving on may seem impossible. It took me a very long time to get over a heart break, longer than I wanted it to. In this write up I will talk on the three things I realized while dealing with a broken heart.

  1. It’s ok to grief the loss of the relationship. After a breakup we find ourself going through a wave of emotions (denial, anger, sad, depression and more). This emotion are normal. Allow yourself to grief, cry if you have too. Crying is therapy. But don’t let the breakup break you. Know you’re worth more than you think.
  2. Cut of communication with your ex. Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it. After a breakup we think we miss the ones who hurt us. No you don’t, you just miss the person you thought he or she was.
  3. Remember what sucked. Remember the things that hurt you you most, make a list if you can. See if you really want to relive those moments.

No matter how long it takes for you to move on, just know that the experience has only made you stronger. You might eventually look back and even be grateful the relationship came to and end. Cheer-up and know you will be involve again and it will be magnificent with the right person. The memories will fade so keep your head up. Always know the best is yet to come . That’s a rap. this was requested by a very good friend and hope it does something for you.

I am still working on my documentary write up and have to something special that will go up this week. Looking forward to your opinions and experiences in the comment section below.

FIVE THINGS TO BOOST YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE.

Low self-esteem is like driving through with your hand breaks on. Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. IF anyone seems to have an incredible self- confidence it’s because he/she had worked on building it for years. I always lacked self-confidence. Everyone’s opinion seemed to matter for some reason. This held me back from making decisions that pleased me. I needed to over com that fear. This is something we all face to some degree. I still have fears undoubtedly . Now I know that I can beat them, I can break through the walls of fear.

As an aside, I know some people make strong distinction between self-esteem and self confidence. The difference being wether you believe your worthy of respect from others (self-esteem) and wether you believe in yourself (self confidence). In the end both amount to the same thing. You do not have to be reliant on others to increase you self-confidence. If you believe that you’re not very attractive and entertaining to be around, you should think again. We all have something unique about us that everyone enjoys.

Below I outline FIVE things that will help you take control of your self-confidence. there’s more, but these five worked for me and I hope it does for you.

Speak to yourself: it’s always delightful to get a good feed back from others. However always seeking approval from outside is and easy trap. Approve yourself, be the one the one that says the words of encouragement you long to hear.

Build your capacity of energy: A bit of stress can be useful to keep alert and give us the extra energy needed to perform. Knowing how to engage with the feelings in your body will expand your presence rather than shrinking it.

Photoshop yourself image: ourself image is very important to us more than we often realize. Often we create a mental image of ourself, and if this image isn’t fixed and immutable, you need to change it. Use your mental photoshopping skill and work on your self image. Figure out why you see yourself in a certain way and change it.

Get to know yourself: when your trying to overcome a negative self image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. listen often to your thoughts, think about what makes you different, what makes you happy. Think of the limitations you have created for yourself. Dig deep within you, face the things you fear the most.

Groom yourself: sometimes changing certain aspects about yourself, helps boost your self-confidence. Get new habits like exercising often, shower twice a day, dress nicely, go out when necessary , be more organized, chase you goals and learn to always take risk.

To conclude with, I will emphasize on the point that , you are in charge of your own happiness. If something makes you happy , go for it. People fear what they don’t understand. Feel free to communicate with me in the comment section and don’t forget rot come back for my write up on having a productive mindset.