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ACCEPTING REALITY

Like I said in my previous post, these year has been a combination of my worst and best year . Lately things seemed to be going down the drain for me . There are things in life I definitely don’t want as a part of my lives history. I sometimes don’t want this things to be a reality. I know am definitely not the only one struggling with accepting reality especially with everything going on in 2020

Accepting reality might be a very difficult process. It does not mean we are ok with what we are accepting, it doesn’t mean with agree with it either. The best thing one can do when it rains is let it rain . Acceptance is all about the present and has nothing to do with the future. Accepting reality is not an act of failure but an act of courage for those who have the strength to face the truth and stop denying it .

Rejecting reality does not change it . Suffering is sometimes the minds refusal to accept reality. In order to accept reality we have to start with the first step which is radical acceptance. It is a skill for accepting things the way that they are. It helps you accept the reality of the situation so you can make smart choices. Radical acceptance means exactly what it sounds like .

You have to accept reality no matter what reality is. The first part of radical acceptance is understanding what you can not change and recognizing what you can change. You can change how long you choose to dwell on things, the choices you make , your attitude, your relationship with God and many others.

Sometimes we face unpleasant situations and difficult problems that make us feel helpless, confused and frustrated. Don’t try to understand everything cause somethings are not meant to be understood but accepted. You don’t have to continue suffering at the hands of things you can not control. Accept whatever situation your facing and let God take over. Remember to always stay positive.

Share your ideas and thoughts with me in the comment section am always open to new ideas .

A NEW BEGINNING

As my birthday approaches I keep getting more excited. I have decided to celebrate this new age with an Important event in my life. I really hope it motivates someone reading this. Two years ago around this same time I had a profound moment in which I realized I needed to completely change my life . I needed to do it fast and I needed to do it right . Most importantly I needed to stick to it . It’s been very challenging but I am so grateful for my rock bottom moment. My life feels completely different .

If I have learned anything on this personal development journey of mine, is that changing your life can happen in a moment of truth. The only thing I look back to on this day is to celebrate how far I have come on this journey. Imagine living life a whole year and you find yourself in the same exact place as you were the previous year ?

Maybe there’s someone reading this right now asking themselves “how do I change my life? “ Well I will share three things you need to consider before making this change.

Make a mindset shift. Your mindset is what sets the tone for everything in your life. What we think and believe is what acts upon us . Change your prospective about negative things and things you can not control. You may not be able to control how a person treats you but can control how you react to it . You do not need to change for the world . You need to change for you .

Embrace your authentic self . Understanding who you are and what you want . I really didn’t know who I was for a very long time . I wanted to be what everyone wanted me to be . This played a huge part in me feeling lost and empty for so long . Figure out what really matters to you in life . Minds are like flowers they only open when the time is right

Do a life audit start to figure out where you stand in the 8 areas of life. Personal Development, health, relationship, home life, free time, self-care and finances. What changes will make an impact in this areas.

I hope you make a decision today if you’re feeling lost . Share with me your thoughts in the comment section below. I am always open to new ideas for growth.

Happy birthday to everyone born today . And a very happy birth to all the Virgo’s reading this.

WHEN YOU THINK YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH REMEMBER THIS.

Sometimes if not often I am really unfair to myself and relentlessly compare myself to other people , no matter how many times I hear how good enough I am. I get stuck in myself and allow my inner critic to completely tear apart my self-esteem until I hate myself too much. Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is simply believing you’re worthy of the trip. Most times the pressure coming from peers, family, work and society in general Is enough to make us completely broken Inside. “Why is this a problem you ask ?” well Self-hate can affect us mentally, our relationships, our life goals and education. Dealing with self-hate has been an ongoing battle for so long, maybe it has to do with my obsession with perfection. And for you struggling with self-hate like me here’s a few things to remember.

1) Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. The reasons we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes circumstances with everyone’s else’s public highlight reel. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgoing yourself to live your best life.

2) Remember happiness is allowing yourself to be perfectly OK with “what is“ rather than wishing and worrying about what is not, “what supposed to be” or “what it will not be”. You can’t control everything that happens to you you can only control the way you react to what happens.

3) When you choose to be miserable you will find plenty of reasons to be but if you choose happiness, life will give you so many reasons to be happy. You are in control of your mind and your thoughts, not the other way around.

4) Failures are really just lessons that need to be learned. No day is ever wasted when you live it with purpose and presence. Enjoy the journey when there are detours along the way. Life it self is full mistakes how we learn from this mistakes is the definition of who we are .

5) Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first then the lessons afterwards. This is really a blessing if we look at it in a Christian light, means you’re going stronger and more capable of every passing day.

6) You don’t need anyone’s approval. Stop listening to what the world has to say and start listening to you. There are only a few people in the world that will be 100% honest with you and you’re one of them. You’re more than good enough you just have to own it .

7) celebrate all your wins not only the big ones but the small ones too. A small step forward is still a step forward no matter how small it is. Celebrate the small wins in anyway you can. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself. Tell yourself you’re not up to a potential won’t help you reach that potential.

You’re enough just the way you are, it will be a lot easier every time you remind yourself s of that. You may think there’s a lot of wrong with you but there’s also a lot of right with you . Remember you’re not alone and endings are also new beginnings.

Share with me the points that relate to you most in the comment section and I am always open to opinions.

Get inspired

I have never felt good about breaking laws and hurting people. It doesn’t bring me peace. I figured in life it’s either them or me. The thing is I was so hungry to be accepted, known, loved, respected and recognized. I knew if I didn’t lie about who I am, I wouldn’t get the things I desire. i supposed we all have the basic survival instinct, but most of the people who judge people like me have never been ignored or looked down upon. it breeds depression and desperate people do desperate things.

so I did what I had to do. I lied, i lied about myself and background. my siblings and parents. everybody was always better off than I was, well at least to me they were. i knew it was wrong but I was young. The lies went on and got even deeper. Some lies became the truth. I quickly discovered that a girl needs more than lies, you have to live the life style you claim to have. you had to attend parties, even throw them. Not too long I was a whole new person even hurting those that knew me for me and loved me for me. I told myself that it wouldn’t be forever but we tell ourselves all sort of things. I told myself once high school was over, in college I would be myself , I would change.

Time went by and I was able to keep up with the lies. I got into college and it crossed my mind. Nobody knows me here. This is my chance to live my truth, the real me. I thought about making new friends and living and honest life. Later that night I was invited to a really cool party with some really rich and cool kids. It wasn’t long before I had the reputation of lying again. About who I am. The lies they all came back. I couldn’t sleep at night, it was high school all over gain. Yes I felt guilty I love my parents, I love what they do , I was proud of them, yet I wanted more. I decided to change colleges. yes I did. In a new country far away from home where no one really knows me.This time I was determined to start all over and live my truth. This is my chance, my heart was filled with hope. I never wanted to be hungry with fame and popularity, I wanted what was real. I remember my first day. I immediately connected with someone. She was someone most people will call a nerd but she was exactly what I was.

Hope filled my heart again. I was honest with her, and she loved me even more . I spent my entire life chancing fake friends, who only cared about what I was and not who I am. who would have left me in a heartbeat if they found out who I really was. I became popular, not from lies but from excelling, In my grades and college sporting actives . Yes I had the fame I seek, this time it was for something honest, something I was good at, Surrounded by friend who loved me for me. They say every saint has a past and every sinner has a future. If I could lean in close to you and whisper something in your ear, it would be, if there are pieces of your past that are weighing you down, its time to leave them behind. You are not what happened to you. You are someone unimaginably greater than you ever considered, and maybe its time to consider all possibilities that are within you.