Sometimes if not often I am really unfair to myself and relentlessly compare myself to other people , no matter how many times I hear how good enough I am. I get stuck in myself and allow my inner critic to completely tear apart my self-esteem until I hate myself too much. Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is simply believing you’re worthy of the trip. Most times the pressure coming from peers, family, work and society in general Is enough to make us completely broken Inside. “Why is this a problem you ask ?” well Self-hate can affect us mentally, our relationships, our life goals and education. Dealing with self-hate has been an ongoing battle for so long, maybe it has to do with my obsession with perfection. And for you struggling with self-hate like me here’s a few things to remember.

1) Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. The reasons we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes circumstances with everyone’s else’s public highlight reel. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgoing yourself to live your best life.

2) Remember happiness is allowing yourself to be perfectly OK with “what is“ rather than wishing and worrying about what is not, “what supposed to be” or “what it will not be”. You can’t control everything that happens to you you can only control the way you react to what happens.

3) When you choose to be miserable you will find plenty of reasons to be but if you choose happiness, life will give you so many reasons to be happy. You are in control of your mind and your thoughts, not the other way around.

4) Failures are really just lessons that need to be learned. No day is ever wasted when you live it with purpose and presence. Enjoy the journey when there are detours along the way. Life it self is full mistakes how we learn from this mistakes is the definition of who we are .

5) Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first then the lessons afterwards. This is really a blessing if we look at it in a Christian light, means you’re going stronger and more capable of every passing day.

6) You don’t need anyone’s approval. Stop listening to what the world has to say and start listening to you. There are only a few people in the world that will be 100% honest with you and you’re one of them. You’re more than good enough you just have to own it .

7) celebrate all your wins not only the big ones but the small ones too. A small step forward is still a step forward no matter how small it is. Celebrate the small wins in anyway you can. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself. Tell yourself you’re not up to a potential won’t help you reach that potential.

You’re enough just the way you are, it will be a lot easier every time you remind yourself s of that. You may think there’s a lot of wrong with you but there’s also a lot of right with you . Remember you’re not alone and endings are also new beginnings.

Share with me the points that relate to you most in the comment section and I am always open to opinions.


  1. Difficult it is, to have been born from 1980 to 1995. In this generation, we experienced a world that was local; cellphones did not exist to most, no internet, phone-books, mom and dad had jobs working here before those jobs were sold to other countries. This was a world before “globalization” and “corporatization” families were happy, cousins got together, family celebrated. Since the tech-boom of the 1990’s, we don’t go play anymore at our friends house we can video phone them, or play a videogame with them on the world wide web instead, now everything begins revolving around ourselves, we can “control” everything and we “know it all” with our “smart phones.” When you mention hating your self, it is not your “self” that you hate, it is that you and I have been sold out! Duped! While we are busy pondering why life is so hard and impossible to bear under the current restructuring, there exists an “elite” group that benefits from this exploitation of us. So long as the tech industry has the size of the slice of pie on their plate as they do, you will have them paying off our “leaders” to sell out our futures. This puts all of us under dependency on others, and leaves us as with all of the classic symptoms you discuss here. Great Piece!


  2. “Obsession with perfection ” wow that one got me… That’s a healthy obsession any other may not be because it ensures we always striving to achieve greatly. That’s a great piece


      1. Good article
        Lately I was feeling I’m not good enough for alot of reasons but this article just helped me realise some stuffs
        Thank you


  3. We are all born with great potential. The trap we fall into is that of looking on the outside instead of on the inside. When we look within and realize we are fearfully and prayerfully made, then we won’t be distracted/influenced by the flashy, luxurious, and most of the time photoshoped images/illusions the world wants us to see as perfection.
    We should always try asking ourselves if this thing we are spending so much time focusing on to acquire/possess, will it matter as much if this was the last day or hour of my life? I believe focusing on our spirituality is far more important since the spiritual realm controls the physical world. And again, after we are gone from this physical world, only the spiritual part of us will continue existing in eternity! Think about these things.

    Good write up. May you receive more inspiration!


  4. We often picture God as sitting in judgment on our every failure and misstep. We imagine that He is as critical of us as we are of ourselves. But that is not actually the case.

    There are many Bible verses that assure us of God’s love, despite our shortcomings. His power is, in fact, make perfect in our weakness (2 Cor. 12: 9). That means God’s power to accomplish good is often most clear in those situations where all our own efforts have failed. At our weakest, we depend wholly on Him. Our strength is only borrowed from Him, in any event. ❤ ❤ ❤


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s