Low self-esteem is like driving through with your hand breaks on. Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. IF anyone seems to have an incredible self- confidence it’s because he/she had worked on building it for years. I always lacked self-confidence. Everyone’s opinion seemed to matter for some reason. This held me back from making decisions that pleased me. I needed to over com that fear. This is something we all face to some degree. I still have fears undoubtedly . Now I know that I can beat them, I can break through the walls of fear.
As an aside, I know some people make strong distinction between self-esteem and self confidence. The difference being wether you believe your worthy of respect from others (self-esteem) and wether you believe in yourself (self confidence). In the end both amount to the same thing. You do not have to be reliant on others to increase you self-confidence. If you believe that you’re not very attractive and entertaining to be around, you should think again. We all have something unique about us that everyone enjoys.
Below I outline FIVE things that will help you take control of your self-confidence. there’s more, but these five worked for me and I hope it does for you.
Speak to yourself: it’s always delightful to get a good feed back from others. However always seeking approval from outside is and easy trap. Approve yourself, be the one the one that says the words of encouragement you long to hear.
Build your capacity of energy: A bit of stress can be useful to keep alert and give us the extra energy needed to perform. Knowing how to engage with the feelings in your body will expand your presence rather than shrinking it.
Photoshop yourself image: ourself image is very important to us more than we often realize. Often we create a mental image of ourself, and if this image isn’t fixed and immutable, you need to change it. Use your mental photoshopping skill and work on your self image. Figure out why you see yourself in a certain way and change it.
Get to know yourself: when your trying to overcome a negative self image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. listen often to your thoughts, think about what makes you different, what makes you happy. Think of the limitations you have created for yourself. Dig deep within you, face the things you fear the most.
Groom yourself: sometimes changing certain aspects about yourself, helps boost your self-confidence. Get new habits like exercising often, shower twice a day, dress nicely, go out when necessary , be more organized, chase you goals and learn to always take risk.
To conclude with, I will emphasize on the point that , you are in charge of your own happiness. If something makes you happy , go for it. People fear what they don’t understand. Feel free to communicate with me in the comment section and don’t forget rot come back for my write up on having a productive mindset.